In our daily lives, we encounter people who we don’t fit with, and sometimes, it can cause us a lot of emotional exhaustion and stress.

If you understand the cause of the conflict and let it go, you can be more detached from your emotions and can see the situation more objectively.

So, why do we have conflicts with others?
It’s because myself and that person have the same mind.

You might think, “That’s ridiculous. How could I be the same as that person?”

​It’s true. The reason why is that the trigger point of that person’s behavior starts from your mind.
If there is conflict in one’s mind, there is conflict.

The root cause does not stem from the “outside”, but the “inside”.

Let me share my story briefly:

I had a friend that I didn’t like. I felt annoyed with her because she only cared and thought about her “stuff”, or things to study. Whenever I saw her behavior, I thought she was really selfish.

I started meditation by chance, but it changed how I see the world and myself, because I could begin to see myself objectively.

Looking at myself, I recognized that I was as the same as she was. I only thought about myself, my stuff, my studies, my time, and so on.

I had a mind of selfishness in me, so I reacted to her behavior accordingly. Now, when I feel strong feelings from others, I know I definitely have that mind in me.

My whole life, I thought I was right.
Looking back, I realized I might have been a villain to someone else.

When I reflect and discard the mind, I see myself rapidly reducing emotional exhaustion and improving myself, whereas I see myself filled with hatred and stress when I blame others.

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Briefly, try to recall the person you don’t like. It might be a friend, co-worker, or family member. You’re the only one who gets stressed out if you live with a mind for that person.

Wouldn’t be great if you could let go of the stress and emotions you have now?
It is possible to let go of those minds.

For our happiness, let’s take some time to clear our minds.