- Write it out – write freely and as honestly as possible.
- Exercise – this actually is just a distraction, but I find it to be a helpful distraction.
- Accept – that people only speak and act according to what they have in their minds. In simple words, if they don’t have my expectation in their mind, they are unable to act according to my expectation.
- Meditate – release the resentment, any other negative emotions and unrealistic expectations from my mind.
When my mutual friends, J and B had a heated argument that caused a divide between our group of friends – I resented J so much back then.
There was a lot of pain and hatred, that I felt like screaming in my heart.
It was very uncomfortable.
To move on from this resentment, I wrote down all my negative emotions freely, and released all those emotions again, and again through guided meditation.
Eventually, through this repeated process of journaling and meditation, the accumulated resentment gradually reduced.
And what helped me flush out that last residual feeling of resentment was a realization (or reminder rather) that happened during a walk one day. I was reminded of point 3 that I learnt through meditation: that people only speak and act according to what they have in their minds – no more, no less.
It hit me then – I was being very unrealistic. The last part of my resentment had to do with my idea of sincerity.
I found J’s apology incredibly insincere. J, however, could not act according to my standards of sincerity because he didn’t have my standards of sincerity in his mind.
It was that simple.
I felt happy and relieved by this reminder, and just happily threw out my expectations and definitions of sincerity from my mind through meditation.
At last, truly gone! I’m grateful!
I hope this helps. 💛
